Witches' matters? Ouch. That is rather serious. I thought you had friends who were girls? They should've taught you better by now.
Anyways. I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough patch with Lavender, and doubly sorry that it started due to a favour you did for me.
Seeing as Draco and I have recently mutually broken things off, I'm not entirely sure I'm the best person to give relationship advice, and if one of the things she was hacked off about was dancing with me, her seeing that you're writing me probably won't help matters, but I'll do my best.
First off, lesson learned, blaming hurt feelings on a girl's monthly is a bad idea. It's like... oh, I don't know, blaming someone's crying on the onions they're chopping. They might actually be crying because they are sad, for a good reason, and if you say it's just the onions, it's like the reason they're sad isn't important or real, and it can make it seem like their feelings are ridiculous or not appropriate. And I know that might not be what you meant to do, but... let's just say it's never going to be a good move to blame the time of the month.
So to address that bit, what I'd do is to make more of an effort to recognise that what she felt was real, and important to her, and that you want to hear her talk about what she feels and why she feels that way, because even though you might not think it's because of an important reason, she does. And I know you tend to over-think everything, but sometimes just listening and saying that you understand can really help, because otherwise, you could come off as disagreeing.
I think your best bet is to tell her that you were wrong (even if you don't think you were), you were an idiot, and you realise now that you've had this row just how much she means to you, and how much you've missed her. And then tell her that you're going to try to listen better, and actually do it. Let her talk, and listen to what she's saying, and say that you understand her reasons for feeling that way, and that you're sorry.
Re: Private Message to Miss Parkinson
Anyways. I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough patch with Lavender, and doubly sorry that it started due to a favour you did for me.
Seeing as Draco and I have recently mutually broken things off, I'm not entirely sure I'm the best person to give relationship advice, and if one of the things she was hacked off about was dancing with me, her seeing that you're writing me probably won't help matters, but I'll do my best.
First off, lesson learned, blaming hurt feelings on a girl's monthly is a bad idea. It's like... oh, I don't know, blaming someone's crying on the onions they're chopping. They might actually be crying because they are sad, for a good reason, and if you say it's just the onions, it's like the reason they're sad isn't important or real, and it can make it seem like their feelings are ridiculous or not appropriate. And I know that might not be what you meant to do, but... let's just say it's never going to be a good move to blame the time of the month.
So to address that bit, what I'd do is to make more of an effort to recognise that what she felt was real, and important to her, and that you want to hear her talk about what she feels and why she feels that way, because even though you might not think it's because of an important reason, she does. And I know you tend to over-think everything, but sometimes just listening and saying that you understand can really help, because otherwise, you could come off as disagreeing.
I think your best bet is to tell her that you were wrong (even if you don't think you were), you were an idiot, and you realise now that you've had this row just how much she means to you, and how much you've missed her. And then tell her that you're going to try to listen better, and actually do it. Let her talk, and listen to what she's saying, and say that you understand her reasons for feeling that way, and that you're sorry.
Flowers always help too.
Good luck, Linus.
And thanks.